I really had not planned to add anything else this evening but chatting with my Cousin Susanna and and a very Dear friend Lucia who Deb and I love as a sister from many many years of chatting. They sort have been introduced together by what I would call Debbies interference. Now you can call it Devine intervention or whatever but Debbie would make certain to introduce a friendship when she could. Lucia aka Rockerchic has been a friend of mine and Debbies since around 96 or 97 if memory serves me right. Susanna is my Aunt Paulas youngest and we have been close since we were children and have spent so much time together but not near enough lately. I love my cuz and my friend Rockerchic. It is what helps me to go on and tonight is a good reminder that love lost is sometimes also love gained. I know Debbie is looking down at us right now and smiling and I can hear her giggle! Her giggle is something that everyone has commented about. It drew you in and you could not but help to smile when hearing it. Debbie is so much to so many. It is my pleasure to share it with everyone and there are so many stories to tell.
Thanks to everyone for letting me share!
Life. And what it brings to us
Tuesday, February 5, 2013
Another long day. I am currently working on a older Harley Davidson and running into one problem after another. So tomorrow will be spent looking for more parts and explaining to the owner that I do not have a magic wand. He will understand and hopefully we can still get it done by the end of the week but that might not happen.
As always my beautiful wife is always in my thoughts. Today I was thinking about the small creek not to far from here where we went wading this past summer. Holding hands and trying not to slip. I have photos of only her Durango from there because she would not let me take her picture. I wish I had now but she always got her way. She loves that Durango so I promise to make it everything she wanted. It is something I must do no matter what the price.
I suppose I should explain the original idea behind this Blog. Back sometime ago Deb and I had bought a 79 Pace Arrow Motor Home. We put in many many hours into making it livable and the photo on the right side of this blog shows Deb getting her kitchen in order. The photo up top is from the Longhorn Resort in Kingsland that we managed together and held so many chat parties at as well as our family reunions. The Truck in the photo is a 1988 Chevy 1 Ton Dually Crewcab that she surprised me with. I truly loved that truck and wish I still had it.
Debbie and I have had our up times and down times. We never stopped loving each other and proved it by showing each morning that things said the night before were behind us. Dad always said to turn the page and we did just that. It made our love stronger and also proved to me that I had the perfect woman! If she could put up with me then I was truly a blessed man. Debbie loved each and everyone in my family and wanted to make certain they knew it.
Now Debbie could hold a grudge and sometimes did as most women will at times but I swear she would forgive if others could forgive her. She proved it over the years and that caused her to become just that much closer and showed her strength and beliefs. Especially when it came to children who she loved so much. All Children were hers. She loved to be around kids and she spent nearly five and a half years volunteering at A Catholic school were our two boys attended. Now I say ours but I have to share them with their father John who dedicated his time to coaching little league baseball. He was never far from them and helped them to grow into the fine young men they are now.
Right now at this time I am sitting here at my computer and laying down next to me is Noon our Half North American Bobtail. Debbie and I adopted him at 6 weeks of age. He is soon to be 8 yrs old and has not left my side. Deb and I actually have his own website up but nothing has been done since before her passing.
You can find it at http://noonthecat.us/
I wish everyone a wonderful evening and keep checking back and I will share the history of Debbie Arms with you. I love and miss her daily and it was truly the most wonderful time of my life!
My favorite photo of Debbie and myself. Also one of our three children and one of Debbies many adopted kids. Big Matt is a huge man with a equally huge heart. He loved Debbie so very much as she loved him!
As always my beautiful wife is always in my thoughts. Today I was thinking about the small creek not to far from here where we went wading this past summer. Holding hands and trying not to slip. I have photos of only her Durango from there because she would not let me take her picture. I wish I had now but she always got her way. She loves that Durango so I promise to make it everything she wanted. It is something I must do no matter what the price.
I suppose I should explain the original idea behind this Blog. Back sometime ago Deb and I had bought a 79 Pace Arrow Motor Home. We put in many many hours into making it livable and the photo on the right side of this blog shows Deb getting her kitchen in order. The photo up top is from the Longhorn Resort in Kingsland that we managed together and held so many chat parties at as well as our family reunions. The Truck in the photo is a 1988 Chevy 1 Ton Dually Crewcab that she surprised me with. I truly loved that truck and wish I still had it.
Debbie and I have had our up times and down times. We never stopped loving each other and proved it by showing each morning that things said the night before were behind us. Dad always said to turn the page and we did just that. It made our love stronger and also proved to me that I had the perfect woman! If she could put up with me then I was truly a blessed man. Debbie loved each and everyone in my family and wanted to make certain they knew it.
Now Debbie could hold a grudge and sometimes did as most women will at times but I swear she would forgive if others could forgive her. She proved it over the years and that caused her to become just that much closer and showed her strength and beliefs. Especially when it came to children who she loved so much. All Children were hers. She loved to be around kids and she spent nearly five and a half years volunteering at A Catholic school were our two boys attended. Now I say ours but I have to share them with their father John who dedicated his time to coaching little league baseball. He was never far from them and helped them to grow into the fine young men they are now.
Right now at this time I am sitting here at my computer and laying down next to me is Noon our Half North American Bobtail. Debbie and I adopted him at 6 weeks of age. He is soon to be 8 yrs old and has not left my side. Deb and I actually have his own website up but nothing has been done since before her passing.
You can find it at http://noonthecat.us/
I wish everyone a wonderful evening and keep checking back and I will share the history of Debbie Arms with you. I love and miss her daily and it was truly the most wonderful time of my life!
Monday, February 4, 2013
Since I have had a very warming response and also a few private messages to get over it I will just say what needs to be one time.
If you have not loved like I have then don't blame me. My wife is the most important person in my life. Children have grown up and you can bet I will help them anyway possible but don't get mad at me because your ex did this or that! I was very fortunate and have said that from the beginning and I loved every single second of it and still do!
Don't be hateful or tell me to get over something which you have never had. You have not walked in my shoes and you have not had the love I have so jealousy will do you nothing but harm. If you want to talk to me and discover what it is like then I will be happy to share it. Otherwise just remove me from facebook and no harm no foul!
Respectfully
Debbies Husband!
If you have not loved like I have then don't blame me. My wife is the most important person in my life. Children have grown up and you can bet I will help them anyway possible but don't get mad at me because your ex did this or that! I was very fortunate and have said that from the beginning and I loved every single second of it and still do!
Don't be hateful or tell me to get over something which you have never had. You have not walked in my shoes and you have not had the love I have so jealousy will do you nothing but harm. If you want to talk to me and discover what it is like then I will be happy to share it. Otherwise just remove me from facebook and no harm no foul!
Respectfully
Debbies Husband!
It has been a very long day. Mondays always seem to feel that way for some reason. Nothing went right and sometimes you just have to walk away from whatever your working on to clear your head. It works for me and today was no different. Where I messed up popped into my head while cooking. This seems to come on more often lately since I suffered the biggest loss of my life. There isn't a moment when I do not think about my wife. Debbie was/is/shall always be my one true love. I have prayed and searched and asked everything imaginable but nobody will ever replace her.
My brother James and his Very Lovely Wife Lissa are over here almost every night since Debbie passed.
Lissa has cooked up some great meals and at first eating was not something I could do. It got easier and tonight I cooked for them. It is something I knew Debbie would ask of me and I really enjoyed it. They must have liked my cooking because they cleaned their plates. That is something Debbie always taught me to watch for. You know when someone loves your cooking! My little brother and sis in law have been so instrumental in me being able to deal with the loss of my wife. I never knew how hard something like this could be.
I am praying and hoping tomorrow goes much better but I do know that my brothers and sisters are close by as are so many friends.
I have one word of advice.............Well maybe one saying and I'm not certain I'll get it right but you will understand
Live to Love and Love to Live!
There!
I wish...........No that is not right..... I pray that everyone who believes in a higher power and worships in her or his own way asks that our wishes are granted. I ask my Lord and Savior daily to look after my wife. I know he holds her close and she is fine and that one day I will join her if I live my life as she did to love without question and to care about everyone without regard to herself. As she has followed so will I and I look forward to seeing her again.
My brother James and his Very Lovely Wife Lissa are over here almost every night since Debbie passed.
Lissa has cooked up some great meals and at first eating was not something I could do. It got easier and tonight I cooked for them. It is something I knew Debbie would ask of me and I really enjoyed it. They must have liked my cooking because they cleaned their plates. That is something Debbie always taught me to watch for. You know when someone loves your cooking! My little brother and sis in law have been so instrumental in me being able to deal with the loss of my wife. I never knew how hard something like this could be.
I am praying and hoping tomorrow goes much better but I do know that my brothers and sisters are close by as are so many friends.
I have one word of advice.............Well maybe one saying and I'm not certain I'll get it right but you will understand
Live to Love and Love to Live!
There!
I wish...........No that is not right..... I pray that everyone who believes in a higher power and worships in her or his own way asks that our wishes are granted. I ask my Lord and Savior daily to look after my wife. I know he holds her close and she is fine and that one day I will join her if I live my life as she did to love without question and to care about everyone without regard to herself. As she has followed so will I and I look forward to seeing her again.
Sunday, February 3, 2013
It is Superbowl Day! Debbie and I never missed it. I watched for the game and cheerleaders of course and Deb watched for the commercials. Today is different because she is watching from above so probably has a better view then myself. And of course she isn't here to cook and make up the snacks which I will miss.
Today its very nice outside with the sky just partly cloudy and it is supposed to warm up nicely. Noon is laying down next to me. Ever since Deb passed he never leaves my side when I am in the house. He is a great comfort and we share our loss together. North American Bobtails are wonderful companions. I consider him as my son because he has always treated me as his family and cats can sometimes just want to be left alone but Noon never wants to have solitude. He instead wants to be up close and we both listen to a few of the recordings I have of Debbie and I know he deals with her passing in his own way.
When Debbie and I first got together we had a uphill road and if it had not been for our love bonding us in such a way I am not certain that I would have kept up the fight. We had to deal with so many who were against us including some family and friends but eventually we would win them over, I say we but it was always Debbie because with her smile and giggle you would finally have to give in. Of course we did have some family and friends who were all for us which helped out immensely. One of my best friends who is a Master Plumber and his wife opened their hearts and house to us. Their daughter spent so many nights with us and loved Debbie truly. My brothers welcomed her into the family and my Mom and Dad only wanted me to be happy. That I have been!
My ex wife and I had been hired to run a beautiful Resort on Lake LBJ in Kingsland Texas. It was within a few months of that job that I had met Debbie online. I could not help but fall in love with her. We started talking on the phone and within just weeks we had both decided that what our hearts told us was that we needed to be together and we would hurt some in doing that but it would hurt us more if we did not follow what we needed. So I packed up and headed down to a small town between Houston and Galveston to pick her up. I got a little motel room waiting for the next morning and finally was able to reach her on the phone and find a meeting place. Once she climbed into the seat next to me in my pickup I knew right then in there that I had found "That one true love!" You can watch all the movies you want or read books but I swear when you have found your true love you know it within seconds. I certainly felt it then as I do now.
I took Debbie to the River Walk in San Antonio for a couple nights and we spent almost every minute just talking. Then we headed back to Kingsland, to see what was next. She had left her two young sons with her not to be so soon ex husband and I had left my daughter with my very soon to be ex wife. The owner of the resort had been informed of what was going on and had flown down from Utah to make a decision of what he needed to do to keep his business well managed. He interviewed Debbie and she explained that she had completed a couple years of college before being diagnosed with Chrohns Disease. He had also been interviewing others at the same time but Debbie and I were hired. We had that job for nearly four years together and loved it.
When we decided to move on we met a new friend Terry who owned the Liquor Store in Granite Shoals who hired us to help him run it. Terry is still like our brother and we had a ton of fun for over 3 years before his then fiancee made him let us go. She was true to the rumors and had caused him to loose everything. She had done it to many before. Thankfully Terry has met and since married a beautiful and caring woman who he cherishes, which again proves to me there is "The One True Love" that is out there for everyone and Terry has his. I wish him all the best!
Terry and I had also opened up a computer business at that time and competed with each other to have the fastest machine. I don't think either of us won because we upgraded nearly daily and had so much fun.
Terry had also introduced me to skydiving which is something I plan to pick back up on. It is such a rush and Debbie was able to go out a couple times with us and watch us skydive. She would never ride in the airplane but she was on the ground ready to greet me and remind me how dumb it was to jump out of a perfectly good airplane. That means she really never got up and close to them because I would not have gone near one without a parachute!
To this day I wish I could have talked her into just doing one jump with me. I think she would have truly loved it and been terrified all at the same time. She would have probably beat the hell out of me once back on the ground but still it would have been nice!
I may or may not add more later today. But thanks for reading and letting me share my life with you.
Best of everything to all who read and to my Baby I will talk to you later!
Today its very nice outside with the sky just partly cloudy and it is supposed to warm up nicely. Noon is laying down next to me. Ever since Deb passed he never leaves my side when I am in the house. He is a great comfort and we share our loss together. North American Bobtails are wonderful companions. I consider him as my son because he has always treated me as his family and cats can sometimes just want to be left alone but Noon never wants to have solitude. He instead wants to be up close and we both listen to a few of the recordings I have of Debbie and I know he deals with her passing in his own way.
When Debbie and I first got together we had a uphill road and if it had not been for our love bonding us in such a way I am not certain that I would have kept up the fight. We had to deal with so many who were against us including some family and friends but eventually we would win them over, I say we but it was always Debbie because with her smile and giggle you would finally have to give in. Of course we did have some family and friends who were all for us which helped out immensely. One of my best friends who is a Master Plumber and his wife opened their hearts and house to us. Their daughter spent so many nights with us and loved Debbie truly. My brothers welcomed her into the family and my Mom and Dad only wanted me to be happy. That I have been!
My ex wife and I had been hired to run a beautiful Resort on Lake LBJ in Kingsland Texas. It was within a few months of that job that I had met Debbie online. I could not help but fall in love with her. We started talking on the phone and within just weeks we had both decided that what our hearts told us was that we needed to be together and we would hurt some in doing that but it would hurt us more if we did not follow what we needed. So I packed up and headed down to a small town between Houston and Galveston to pick her up. I got a little motel room waiting for the next morning and finally was able to reach her on the phone and find a meeting place. Once she climbed into the seat next to me in my pickup I knew right then in there that I had found "That one true love!" You can watch all the movies you want or read books but I swear when you have found your true love you know it within seconds. I certainly felt it then as I do now.
I took Debbie to the River Walk in San Antonio for a couple nights and we spent almost every minute just talking. Then we headed back to Kingsland, to see what was next. She had left her two young sons with her not to be so soon ex husband and I had left my daughter with my very soon to be ex wife. The owner of the resort had been informed of what was going on and had flown down from Utah to make a decision of what he needed to do to keep his business well managed. He interviewed Debbie and she explained that she had completed a couple years of college before being diagnosed with Chrohns Disease. He had also been interviewing others at the same time but Debbie and I were hired. We had that job for nearly four years together and loved it.
When we decided to move on we met a new friend Terry who owned the Liquor Store in Granite Shoals who hired us to help him run it. Terry is still like our brother and we had a ton of fun for over 3 years before his then fiancee made him let us go. She was true to the rumors and had caused him to loose everything. She had done it to many before. Thankfully Terry has met and since married a beautiful and caring woman who he cherishes, which again proves to me there is "The One True Love" that is out there for everyone and Terry has his. I wish him all the best!
Terry and I had also opened up a computer business at that time and competed with each other to have the fastest machine. I don't think either of us won because we upgraded nearly daily and had so much fun.
Terry had also introduced me to skydiving which is something I plan to pick back up on. It is such a rush and Debbie was able to go out a couple times with us and watch us skydive. She would never ride in the airplane but she was on the ground ready to greet me and remind me how dumb it was to jump out of a perfectly good airplane. That means she really never got up and close to them because I would not have gone near one without a parachute!
To this day I wish I could have talked her into just doing one jump with me. I think she would have truly loved it and been terrified all at the same time. She would have probably beat the hell out of me once back on the ground but still it would have been nice!
I may or may not add more later today. But thanks for reading and letting me share my life with you.
Best of everything to all who read and to my Baby I will talk to you later!
Saturday, February 2, 2013
It has been quite awhile since I last updated this blog. Either due to moving and new job or just plain lazy.
This evening the reason is that I am dedicating this blog to my Very Beautiful wife who I lost this past January 10th from a massive heart attack.
So we will start there. It has taken me much time and with the help of family and friends that I can now talk about it. Debbie and I have been together nearly 17 years. During that time we had run a lake side resort, liquor store, video/pizza store. restaurant and several other jobs where we worked together. I am only 50 as of this time and Debbie was 52 but comparing the average hours a couple spend together who work apart we had nearly the equivalent of 52.5 yrs together. To me that is a great and long marriage.
Debbie was the best of everything. She made me the man I am who just was lucky enough to fall in love with such a woman.
We met in a ichat rooms chat site back in 1996. We shared so many beliefs and were needing more in our lifes. We had both fell out of love with our then current spouses due to know direct fault of their own but wanted more out of life. She had/has two wonderful boys who I love deeply. I have a daughter who is the light of my life. Now both my daughter and oldest son have given Debbie and myself two beautiful and healthy granddaughters. I am so proud of that. Our youngest talks to me nearly daily and we found a common ground about hotrods, 4wd trucks and he is a damned fine young man who I am proud to call my son. When Debbie and I got together understandably her then husband wasn't very nice to me but he did load her suitcases in the back of that 1984 Ford F-150. After some time and a few diversions the divorce was final. It had only taken 4 years. Ordered to deal with how to split up belongings they got along better then ever before. The gal in charge had stepped outside and told me she could not keep up. Well Debbie and her ex and I went out for drinks. A yr or so later we went to the house she had shared with him and had assigned her half to her sons just to get her Christmas decorations. She asked her ex for help so he pulled down the latter and went back to the sofa to watch I think a ball game. She was tossing down boxes to me full of her stuff and I asked her ex if I could lock her up in the attic and I would pay him 25 bucks. He said "Hell no she is your problem now buddy boy" And to be honest he is really a damned nice guy! But more about that later. Remember this is my blog so how I tell it is up to me ;p!
So Deb and I had about 4 years to really get to know each other while waiting for her divorce even though mine had taken only 3 months. We called the local JP Rudy Cunningham who came over to the resort and our only witness was our little yorkie "Ginger" and Rudy asked me if I wanted the long version or short. Well hell after 4 years I wanted it to be over. So short it was. Deb and I kissed and went right back to work. No time for a honeymoon at that time but it would come later. I of course had to call my Mom and Dad. (If you don't let Mom know you are in deep trouble!) I love my Mom because she is an amazing woman and she always tells us kids that she never butts into our private lifes! (Moms know everything and whomever gave them that magic has some answering to !) One Debbies favorite stories is the day my Mom and Dad were up at the resort and Mom took Debbie out to "the shed" which meant the back yard LOL. Mom being Mom was just letting her know what it was to be in this family and how much she loves her children etc etc and Deb came back into the main house saying that she got "The Talk" See Dad is definitely the one in charge but he backs up Mom and nobody and I mean nobody crosses Mom. Dad told us boys when growing up and could stand up to him and look him in the eyes that we would step outside and whoever was left standing made up the rules. To this day none of my brothers or myself has ever stepped outside with Dad. Love and respect taught us better.
My Dad called Deb by pet names from the beginning like Baby,
He treats his family with such respect that all of us who he has raised strive to be such a good man.
Debbie has always called my Mom and Dad just that. She never used their names because to her she had always felt that they were in fact her Mom and Dad because she loved me and them and was very sincere in that.
Before I have ever laid eyes on Debbie the only thing I had showing what she looked like was a picture from a tee shirt when she was a team mom for boys little league. From neck up but I knew I loved her. She had never seen a photo of me. Still we spent the rest of her life together so I guess that love may not be blind but listens to the heart! Ours certainly had.
So begins the story of a true love far more valuable to me then all the gold in Fort Knox. A God given love isn't something to be taken granted for. It is only there to be cherished and enjoyed. Every night since she left me to go on to what we all strive for makes me happy for every second have spent with her. So tonight like all others I will weep for my loss and smile for what I was given.
So until tomorrow my friends and my wife. Love, Respect and best wishes for you and yours and never take anything for granted because even with the heavy heart left by loosing someone can also make you stronger and keep you safe and warm. I have that with my one true love and my baby. Debbie will always be the love of my life and like my Mom said. She is True Blue!
This evening the reason is that I am dedicating this blog to my Very Beautiful wife who I lost this past January 10th from a massive heart attack.
So we will start there. It has taken me much time and with the help of family and friends that I can now talk about it. Debbie and I have been together nearly 17 years. During that time we had run a lake side resort, liquor store, video/pizza store. restaurant and several other jobs where we worked together. I am only 50 as of this time and Debbie was 52 but comparing the average hours a couple spend together who work apart we had nearly the equivalent of 52.5 yrs together. To me that is a great and long marriage.
Debbie was the best of everything. She made me the man I am who just was lucky enough to fall in love with such a woman.
We met in a ichat rooms chat site back in 1996. We shared so many beliefs and were needing more in our lifes. We had both fell out of love with our then current spouses due to know direct fault of their own but wanted more out of life. She had/has two wonderful boys who I love deeply. I have a daughter who is the light of my life. Now both my daughter and oldest son have given Debbie and myself two beautiful and healthy granddaughters. I am so proud of that. Our youngest talks to me nearly daily and we found a common ground about hotrods, 4wd trucks and he is a damned fine young man who I am proud to call my son. When Debbie and I got together understandably her then husband wasn't very nice to me but he did load her suitcases in the back of that 1984 Ford F-150. After some time and a few diversions the divorce was final. It had only taken 4 years. Ordered to deal with how to split up belongings they got along better then ever before. The gal in charge had stepped outside and told me she could not keep up. Well Debbie and her ex and I went out for drinks. A yr or so later we went to the house she had shared with him and had assigned her half to her sons just to get her Christmas decorations. She asked her ex for help so he pulled down the latter and went back to the sofa to watch I think a ball game. She was tossing down boxes to me full of her stuff and I asked her ex if I could lock her up in the attic and I would pay him 25 bucks. He said "Hell no she is your problem now buddy boy" And to be honest he is really a damned nice guy! But more about that later. Remember this is my blog so how I tell it is up to me ;p!
So Deb and I had about 4 years to really get to know each other while waiting for her divorce even though mine had taken only 3 months. We called the local JP Rudy Cunningham who came over to the resort and our only witness was our little yorkie "Ginger" and Rudy asked me if I wanted the long version or short. Well hell after 4 years I wanted it to be over. So short it was. Deb and I kissed and went right back to work. No time for a honeymoon at that time but it would come later. I of course had to call my Mom and Dad. (If you don't let Mom know you are in deep trouble!) I love my Mom because she is an amazing woman and she always tells us kids that she never butts into our private lifes! (Moms know everything and whomever gave them that magic has some answering to !) One Debbies favorite stories is the day my Mom and Dad were up at the resort and Mom took Debbie out to "the shed" which meant the back yard LOL. Mom being Mom was just letting her know what it was to be in this family and how much she loves her children etc etc and Deb came back into the main house saying that she got "The Talk" See Dad is definitely the one in charge but he backs up Mom and nobody and I mean nobody crosses Mom. Dad told us boys when growing up and could stand up to him and look him in the eyes that we would step outside and whoever was left standing made up the rules. To this day none of my brothers or myself has ever stepped outside with Dad. Love and respect taught us better.
My Dad called Deb by pet names from the beginning like Baby,
He treats his family with such respect that all of us who he has raised strive to be such a good man.
Debbie has always called my Mom and Dad just that. She never used their names because to her she had always felt that they were in fact her Mom and Dad because she loved me and them and was very sincere in that.
Before I have ever laid eyes on Debbie the only thing I had showing what she looked like was a picture from a tee shirt when she was a team mom for boys little league. From neck up but I knew I loved her. She had never seen a photo of me. Still we spent the rest of her life together so I guess that love may not be blind but listens to the heart! Ours certainly had.
So begins the story of a true love far more valuable to me then all the gold in Fort Knox. A God given love isn't something to be taken granted for. It is only there to be cherished and enjoyed. Every night since she left me to go on to what we all strive for makes me happy for every second have spent with her. So tonight like all others I will weep for my loss and smile for what I was given.
So until tomorrow my friends and my wife. Love, Respect and best wishes for you and yours and never take anything for granted because even with the heavy heart left by loosing someone can also make you stronger and keep you safe and warm. I have that with my one true love and my baby. Debbie will always be the love of my life and like my Mom said. She is True Blue!
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